“When you’re green your growing, when you’re ripe you rot.”
On the eve of my Open Wide Australian Tour, I found myself asking… why do I do this? Why do I keep pushing myself to create bigger and better things year after year? There is so much growth on the edge of discomfort. I believe that trying new things can make you more creative and more adaptable to new challenges that may come up.
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Welcome back to Broad New World, I’m your host Nick Broadhurst, also known as Broadhurst in the music world. And you can catch everything that I do including my music, podcasts, blog posts, music videos at broadhurst.world. And all of my music is on Spotify at broadhurst.world/Spotify. And that song you were listening to is a song called Bones, and you can catch that at broadhurst.world/bones.
Now I must say, please do check out the music video because this music video is so epic. And I can’t take all the credit because I had an incredible team behind this one. And it was actually the result of six weeks of full on training for me to get into sort of a Fight Club readiness with my physique. And there was a huge learning curve for me to become a fighter. But check out that music video, it is so incredible.
That song starts with the lyrics, ”It’s only through the pain we grow, a metaphor for all man knows.” And pain is necessary; you know, it’s not something that any of us will ever escape. It’s an experience we all have to have. But I believe we can always learn from others who have gone before us, and use their lessons to navigate life so that you can make the best choices for you and live a more heart based life; and ultimately, reach your potential.
That is my wish for this show, that I can share some nuggets which will just help you navigate life a bit more efficiently and with more ease and more grace. So let’s jump into episode number 14 which is called, “Getting Comfortable with being Uncomfortable.”
And I want to start by giving you a brief recap on my life, and this will all make sense in a minute. So, for those of you who don’t know, I had a very successful music career in my early twenties. And I was in a band called Sneaky Sound System, and we became internationally successful, we had a number one album, the longest running single in the ARIA charts in Australia, and life was good.
But I decided to leave that world of music, which I loved, and I went and got a real job which was in real estate selling residential property. Now, nothing wrong with real estate; in fact, I think that there are probably no other jobs that are as good for your personal development than real estate. It is so tough.
And what it taught me was one amazing skill, which I am forever grateful for. In fact, I would not be doing what I’m doing now on this podcast or with my music if I had not learnt this one thing. And that is getting comfortable with being uncomfortable.
Because in real estate it is so cut throat and so competitive. And I used to work on a commission-only basis, which meant I had to support my family, but I didn’t know if there was money coming in, there was no guarantee and I got out there and did the work and brought in the money myself. There was no guarantees.
So working commission-only in a world like real estate forces you to get very very good at being comfortable with being uncomfortable. And when I first started it, I used to feel literally sick every morning I walked into the office, because by nature I’m a bit of an introvert, and the thought of picking up the phone and cold prospecting for new business was gross to me. Like I just despised it.
I never learned to enjoy it, I must say, but over the five years I was in real estate, I did get more and more comfortable with doing it. And I got better and better at it. And of course got more and more authentic and I had more integrity in the way that I did it. And ultimately, it lead me to climbing the ranks in that world to becoming the number 1 agent in Australia. And this is a skill that I am forever grateful for.
Now, why do we want to get comfortable with being uncomfortable? Why bother? Why put ourselves in this position? I believe that challenging yourself can help you perform at your peak. There’s so much growth on the edge of discomfort, so much growth.
You know, I am days away now from the start of my national tour, the Open Wide tour, and sometimes I ask myself, “Why am I doing this? Like why am I doing this?” And it’s a question that Melissa and I discussed yesterday in rehearsals, like why do we do this to ourselves? And it comes back to a saying that I love, which is, When you’re green you’re growing, when you’re ripe you rot.”
And I think Tony Robbins says something like, “If you’re not learning, you’re dying. If you’re not growing, you’re dying.”And I couldn’t agree more. And this tour for me represents the next evolution in me becoming uncomfortable. Does that make sense?
So, I also believe that trying new things can just make you more creative. Because you have to think outside the box, you get comfortable with the way that you think and if you become uncomfortable, then it forces you to think more creatively, which is an incredible bonus.
I think it makes you much more adaptable to new challenges that may come up. So when you have something which is hard or just makes you feel a little bit icky or is a bit of a push, then it creates adaptability. It allows you to embrace change much more easily, which is an incredible skill to have.
And when new opportunities come up in life, it’s a lot easier to push that little bit and take advantage of those opportunities. And I don’t mean push to the point where it’s bad for you, just leaning on the edge of discomfort, and knowing, knowing that it’s okay just to go that bit further. And that you’re in the zone of growth.
So my invitation for you today is to do one thing that makes you uncomfortable. Now, as I said, it doesn’t mean you have to push too hard or do anything silly. It may just be asking for something that’s important to you that you’ve been too afraid to ask. It may be expressing something openly to your partner or your parents or a friend. Saying something that you have wanted to say for a long time. It might just be, “I love you.” Maybe you don’t say that to your parents, and you’ve never said it and you want to say it before, you know, God knows, something happens to someone.
It could be doing something silly like dancing on the beach and pretending no one’s watching you with headphones on. Or it could just be walking up to a stranger and giving them a compliment. Just think of something which immediately makes you feel a bit uncomfortable, but give it a go today. I promise you this is one of the fastest ways for you to grow as an individual, is to get comfortable with being uncomfortable.
Today personally, I’m going to commit to giving a stranger a compliment. And so I’ll probably go shopping for some food or something later and I will just walk up to someone and say, “Hey, you know what? I just wanted to let you know that you have the most beautiful eyes.” And doing it in a really beautiful, authentic way.
Maybe doing it to a man, you know? That’s pretty uncomfortable. But I guarantee you he’ll never forget that moment, ever; for the rest of his life. So that’s what I’m going to do. I’m going to tell a man he has beautiful eyes. What do you think?
So if you do this, I would love it if you did, please share with me on social media what you did and how it made you feel. And see if you can start to make this a habit. You know, getting comfortable with being uncomfortable, in my humble opinion, means you have a better chance of going after your dreams.
You know, initially for me releasing my music was pretty uncomfortable. But now I can’t wait to release new music. I love it so much, because I trust myself, I trust my instincts, I trust my intuition way more. I’ve moved through that discomfort. And now the next step is my large show which is a bit scary at times because I know people will come to my shows with expectations of how I’m going to personally sound as a vocalist.
You know, can I live up to those expectations? Well, who knows. But I know that I standing on that stage, I’ve shown up. I have leaned into my discomfort. I’ve given it my all. And I’ll tell you what; if I die tomorrow, I die a happy man because I’ve shown up. And I think this is an incredible thing to embrace. I would love for you to give it a go.
So if you do, please share with me on social media; my social media handle is @broadhurstworld, across all platforms. And tell me what you did and you can use the hashtag #broadnewworld as well. You can get all of these show notes at broadhurst.world/14. And you can also get the full transcript of the show as well.
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So, thank you so much for being here today. Thank you for wanting to be more. And as always, have a beautiful day and I love you, heaps. Ciao!